Friday, May 11, 2012

Sisterly Love

For me, one of the most rewarding parts of being a Mum is having the chance to watch my girls interacting.  Grace and Sophie have begun to really do so now and it’s just so special to witness.  I love how Grace walks alongside the pram as I push Sophie, holding onto her little sister's hand.  I love how Sophie's face lights up when she sees her big sister upon waking in the morning.  I love looking behind me in the car to see my two girls reaching out to each other from their seats.  Sophie is infatuated with her big sister and Grace fusses over ‘her baby’ like a mother hen.

A few weeks back, a comment on Childhood 101 left by Jenn of My (Not So) Glamourous Life really struck a chord with me.  Jenn shared this poem below which I think sums up perfectly the feeling many Mums have when expecting their second child…

As I hold your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship, 
I suddenly feel a kick from within, 
as if to remind me that our time alone is limited.
And I wonder: How could I ever love another child as I love you?
Then he is born, and I watch you.
I watch the pain you feel at having to share me,
as you’ve never shared me before.
I hear you telling me in your own way,
“Please love only me.”
And I hear myself telling you in mine,
“I can’t,” knowing, in fact, that I never can again.
You cry. I cry with you.
I almost see our new baby as an intruder
on the precious relationship we once shared.
A relationship we can never quite have again.
But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, 

and feeling almost guilty.
I’m afraid to let you see me enjoying him.
– as though I am betraying you.
But then I notice your resentment change,
first to curiosity, then to protectiveness,
finally to genuine affection.
More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine.
The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.
But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two.
There are new times — only now, we are three.
I watch the love between you grow, 

the way you look at each other, touch each other.
I watch how he adores you — as I have for so long.
I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments.
And I begin to realize that I haven’t taken something from you,
I’ve given something to you.
I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.
I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are,
but equally strong.
And my question is finally answered, to my amazement...
Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you – only differently.
And although I realize that you may have to share my time,
I now know you’ll never share my love.
There’s enough of that for both of you
– you each have your own supply.
I love you both and I thank you both for blessing my life.”

- Author unknown -

Wishing all of those with children a wonderful Mother's Day on Sunday, all those who will be spending time with their own Mums a special day and all those who cannot be with their loved ones, precious memories to reflect on of your time together.

Edited on 31 May 2012: This post was featured in the May 2012 edition of  The Post of the Month Club.


  1. What a beautiful poem - thank you for sharing it - I recognise some of those feelings. I now have three lovely daughters and 6 amazing grandchildren and still have love in abundance......... enough for everyone. I am very lucky to be part of so many lives. Sue x

  2. Oh Amanda, what a beautiful post. And what gorgeous girls you have. Funny thinking about mother's day on Sunday, because the boys have tested me to my limits this week!

  3. It sounds like your two little girls adore each other already, it's such a beautiful thing to witness the love they have for one another and a proud one:) Wishing you a very special day on Sunday with your two girls:) Happy Mother's Day Amanda. xx

  4. Oh's almost like that poem was written for me {or by me}. It's EXACTLY how I felt once Ryder was born and how I feel now. It's so beautiful to love another little child as much as you love your firstborn...something you can't explain until you experience it. And I too love the relationship that my 2 have began building. Ryder is just in awe of his big beautiful sister, and she is so good with him.In fact, she's declared that she is going to marry him when they're older....eeeeks! hahaa!
    I love the photos of your 2 gorgeous little girls.
    What lucky mummas we are :)

  5. Thanks for sharing a beautiful post and photo...i can see you will have a very special Mother's day!I get the same feelings when i see my twins beginning to really interact with one another and the different roles they have taken special indeed x

  6. Your girls will have such a strong connection all through their lives like instant best friends. I have an older brother and we are pretty close but I always imagine what it wouldve been like to have a sister sharing clothes, talking about boys, like a live in best friend!
    Have a wonderfull Mothers Day with your fam :)

  7. Too sweet! Hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day!

  8. Your girls are just adorable! Happy Mother's Day to you too Amanda! xx

  9. A precious post, Amanda. I totally *get* this, of course. J x

  10. Such sweet girls, such a special bond they have. It will be so beautiful watching their relationship develop over the years. Happy Mother's Day x

  11. Oh I just love everything about what you've written here. And that poem speaks to my heart. Your girls are so gorgeous Amanda. Happy mothers day to you x

  12. What a beautiful post Amanda. Well done. I hope you had a wonderful mothers day with your two gorgeous little girls xo

  13. This gave me goosebumps Amanda, beautifully written.
    I love seeing the love between our five. Initially before Kaizer was born our oldest shared his concerns about being 17yrs older than his baby brother but they share such a very special bond that the age gap doesn't matter.

  14. Such a sweet post. I love reading about the relationship between sisters - so special.

    I look forward to the day when (fingers crossed - although not for a while!) Saskia will have a little sibling to fuss over...(or perhaps it will be more like to boss around, knowing her!)

  15. You've got me crying AGAIN with that poem Amanda! Hehehe. Isn't it so special, I can't wait till Lachie can start to really interact with Will. Sooooo precious. Love that pic of the girls where Sophie is in the bumbo, so cute!
    Hugs as always,

  16. Gorgeous pic.Have one just like it of my two eldest.Enjoy it while it lasts!

  17. So glad to see that your girls are truly enjoying one another, and that you are finding the joy in it every day, and that your love is growing! I'm glad my comment on Childhood 101 was able to reach your heart.

  18. I'm so thrilled you've linked up this post for the POTMC, Amanda - thankyou for sharing it! Grace and Sophie are such heart-melters. I especially adore the first photo, pink Bumbo and all! J x

  19. What a lovely poem. Thanks for sharing!

  20. Just read the poem (you posted about it commenting my blog) and i'm still crying... thank you very much for sharing it! a beautiful poem and i'm sure i'll read it again and again until august and after. i'm writing a diary for every one of my children, something more oldstyle than a blog, and i've started since my 4th month of pregnancy. i'll copy it into their diaries for sure!


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